10 Ways to Practice Self-Love - Balanced Black Girl (2024)

When we have a firm, non-wavering love for ourselves we are more capable of sharing love with others. Here are 10 ways to practice self-love when you need it most.

Before we get started, I am trying something new by offering an audio and written version of today’s post. I LOVE audio and listening to podcasts, audiobooks, etc. while I work, so if you enjoy that type of thing, feel free to give the audio version of this post a listen. I would love to hear what you think!

I am a firm believer that the world we live in would be a happier, more peaceful place if more people had a deeper senseof self-love. When you are truly at peace with yourself, the urge to compare, attack and criticize others is practically non-existent your ability to appreciate the differences of others skyrockets. When you are truly at peace with yourself, you are a calmer, happier person.

The thing is, practicing self-love is just hard. When our expectations of ourselves are high, or when the pressures of life feel too heavy to bear, our own self-esteem is often the first thing to suffer. At the time I’m writing this post it is February 2017. It is a time of year when many people celebrate the love of a romantic partner or a friend. But this year, I want you to focus on celebrating your love of yourself.

10 Ways to Practice Self-Love

1. Remain present.

   We live in a world of distraction. We have endless amounts of information at our fingertips thanks to our cell phones, and hardly have the time and mental capacity to handle all of the information thrown at us. I won’t tell you to ditch your phone, because that’s unrealistic, and let’s be real, I’m as addicted to my phone as the next millennial. Instead, pick one activity you really love and make it a point to be incredibly present while you are performing that activity. Whether that’s crafting, coloring, journaling, or sharing a meal with your significant other – create a distraction-free zone around that one activity that fills you up the most.

2. Open yourself up to learning.

   There is nothing more stimulating than learning something new.Whether it’s taking a class in a subject you want to learn more about, learning a creative skill such as photography or a musical instrument, or simply asking for clarification when you aren’t understanding something, continuous learning is an incredible confidence-builder.

3. Say no.

   This one is tough, especially for women because we are so used to taking care of everyone else before taking care of ourselves. But here’s the deal – every single time you say yes to someone else’s priorities over your own, you are saying no to yourself. Know that sometimes it is more than ok to say no to others so you can say yes to yourself. Instead of immediately replyingyes to every request that comes your way, ask for time to think it through so you can ensure you aren’t leaving yourself running on empty. There is nothing wrong with asking for time to think it over before taking things on for other people.

4. Move your body.

   Oh you know this one was coming. Your body wants to move. On the daily. That doesn’t mean you need to do intense workouts every day. But that means you need to periodically get up and move throughout the day each day. Your beautiful body was not designed to sit in a chair in front of a computer all day. Leaving the topics of weight and vanity aside, if you want to live your happiest, healthiest, life, movement is an important component. Even a brief walk around the block or taking a few minutes to stretch is a beautiful way to practice self-love and gratitude.

5. Eat more whole foods.

   How you nourish your body is critical. When your diet consists of mostly complex carbohydrates, protein, and healthy fats (there is absolutely room for treats too, we don’t do depravation here) your body thrives and you have the energy you need to fuel your busy life. Depriving yourself of food, or relying on junk puts unnecessary stress on your body, making it work harder than it should to get through the day.

6. Take in positive words.

   Overcoming negative self-talk is hard, and to be honest I don’t have the answer on how to completely rid yourself of it. Instead of trying to turn off negative thoughts, try to surround yourself with as many positive words as possible. Is the music you are listening to full of positive, inspiring lyrics? Do you have positive affirmations written in your space where you can see them? Instead of just asking your partner how their day was, instead ask, “What was the highlight of your day today?” Surrounding yourself with positive words, even if they aren’t your own can make all the difference in howyou begin to talk to yourself.

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7. Strut your stuff.

   Even if you aren’t a fan of being done-up at all times, taking a few extra minutes to feel a little more put together can make a huge difference. If that means putting a little extra thought into your outfit, styling your hair your favorite way, or making sure your brows are filled in to perfection, do those little things that make you feel amazing.

8. Share your gifts.

   You have gifts galore that the world hasn’t even seen yet. Open up and share them! Even if it’s just an idea you have – share it in a safe space with someone you trust. Believing in and sharing the gifts, ideas and talents you have is an incredible act of self-love that can also have a positive impact on those around you.

9. Know your worth – and stick to it.

   Alright friends, here’s where we are getting real. When was the last time you checked in and evaluated your self-worth? Every once and a while, we need to audit ourselves to make sure we are truly living in accordance to our values. Knowing your worth and not letting outside influences compromise your values is challenging, but it is also incredibly rewarding, and a bold act of self-love.

10. Recognize and embrace your weirdness.

    If you think you aren’t weird, you’re lying to yourself. Everyone is a little weird, and that’s what makes life great. I bet there are people out there who are the same kind of weird as you and would love and appreciate you letting your weirdness show. Do you, boo and don’t be afraid to love your own quirky weirdness.

Your Turn:

• What are your favorite ways to practice self-love?