The Self Love Course: 7 Steps to Emotional Freedom (2024)

WHY SELF LOVE? How much Self Love do you have? Is it time to fall in love with you?Would all your relationships benefit if you devoted your energy to a Self Loving Practice?Are you ready to uncover what drains your energy and feed your energy with Intention and your Power of Choice?Self-love is inherent — we were born loving every part of ourselves!Most of us were not modeled Healthy Self Love. We have developed this course to empower you with the language, skills and tools necessary for your Love of Self.

SELF LOVE requires us to be honest with ourselves. We need the courage to face within ourselves what we have denied and have deemed unloveable and unworthy. Through Self Honesty we bring forth what we have banished into the darkness to the Light of our Consciousness. We call each of these aspects our Shadows.

Self Awareness is the tool you need to becoming Conscious. Without Self Awareness we are reactors instead of actors. We are puppets on a string to our survival instincts, emotional reactions and our power and control strategies developed by our ego.

Our First Step of Self Honesty frees us from being a slave to our Wounded Ego allowing us to admit and call out what we tend to defend. The Second Step, Self Awareness shines the light with our Self Honesty and gives us our Power of Choice. These first two steps are foundational on our journey to prepare you to align your will and your life with your Conscious Commitment to Self Love. Now we are taking the Third Step of Self Commitment to devote ourselves to our daily practice of Self Love.

Self Worth is the fundamental right of knowing that you are a valuable person regardless of what you have or haven’t accomplished. Self Worth is the internal belief that you matter. Self Worth comes from within to give you the ability to develop your Self Esteem.We may Sabotage ourselves with addictions, underperforming, being self deprecating or diminishing ourselves by denying our talents and gifts or settling and tolerating less then we deserve or desire.The good news is we don’t have to be determined by our conditioning as we have the power to develop a healthy relationship with ourselves. It is never too late to become who we choose to be. We can establish the core belief that We Matter and that We are Worthy of Self Love.

Self Acceptance has us know our Self Worth inside out. Our Self Worth teaches us to value ourselves. We are able to value every part of who we are and face the parts of us we have neglected, abandoned, rejected, denied and most of all hidden (and hidden from ourselves). Self Acceptance allows us to meet the aspects of ourselves that have been denied and acting out to get our attention to solve the mystery of ourselves through Self Love and the curiosity of Wonderment.Seeking to know ourselves through Loving Awareness and Accept our Selves, all of our selves, means we have to face and meet these “unwanted” or “denied” parts of ourselves. We call these disowned parts of ourselves our Shadows.

We begin developing our innate ability to be compassionate from the time we are born. We learn through “mirror neurons” by what we see and feel from the way we are held, calmed and soothed. Like when we are crying and our father picks us up and sings to us, we relax and coo or when we are screaming for attention and we get our mother’s gentle voice saying, “there, there” and are consoled. If we got anything other than compassionate care we may have frozen unmet needs that need Nurturing in order to be developed and expressed.Compassion continues to be shown to us by the way we hear our family talk about others or groups of people. If they speak with compassionate kind language, then we learn to be understanding of other’s plights and to speak kindly about their struggles.

By the time we have come to the 7th Step we are able to connect the dots and have the map and language of how to truly love ourselves. As a result of taking these steps to heart, we will come to know Self Love and be able to appreciate who we are with actual Admiration and Self Care. We will know our worth and know how to have Compassion for ourself. We understand the difference between our wounded selves, and our Higher Self. We can help our wounded self with our new found ability to name and be kind to all the parts of ourselves, choosing to see through the eyes of our Higher Self. We Feel Safe to be our Authentic Self and Speak our Truth.

Rachel is a licensed psychotherapist, certified Master Integrative Coach in Shadow Work, and trained Imago Relationship Therapist with over 25 years of experience. Affectionately known to her clients as Love Coach Rachel, she is also a community builder, dancer, and devoted to practicing and teaching the skills for Healthy Love.

As a Clear Beliefs Therapeutic Coach and Healthy Love teacher, Steven brings his unique, loving sensitivity and extensive knowledge to this work. His rich background in Shadow, Core Beliefs and 12-Step work, as well as working directly with world-renowned teachers such as Eckhart Tolle and Gary Zukav, adds an added skillset of presence and other healing modalities. Steven teaches The Self Love Course, with the life changing teaching that made such a difference for those who have been blessed to have him as a guide, coach and teacher.