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How do you prefer to receive bad news?The dreaded “You haven’t got the job” 😔 As a recruiter, working with humans means you’re inevitably going to displease someone in the way you deliver a message.I have rejected thousands of job seekers, and over the years I have landed on an approach that I felt was as compassionate and efficient as I could make it.It looked like this:1️⃣ Always delivering bad news via email first2️⃣ Offering a 15 min call to explain the decision making process & any constructive feedback (if they have interviewed)Here was my reasoning 👇 Receiving bad news, particularly at the latter stages of a process, is usually emotional.A candidate has invested their time, their hope, and their self esteem into a process. Even if it isn’t their dream job, the feeling of rejection is unpleasant for the vast majority of people. When we’re in an emotional state, often our ability to 1. Retain information and 2. Think logically and ask necessary questions is impaired. I have had many candidates cry or choke back tears on the phone, and frankly, I'd like to offer people the time to compose themselves before diving into the reason why they didn't get the job.This, however, is based in my assumption of what’s best for people and not in data.So I’d like to know, what’s your preference? What’s the best way you’ve received or given bad news? 👇 ----------------------------------------------------------------I’m Natalie 👋 I’m a Talent Acquisition specialist and I help companies hire exceptional talent in an efficient, fair, and kind way. If you’d be interested in working with me - drop me a line, I’d love to hear from you 📧

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The sad truth - & one that some, like yourself, are at least trying to address, is that often there is no reply & even after being interviewed, there is no feedback given. I was told once that they cannot go into details with every candidate - even though I was interviewed, they couldnt tell me why i didnt make the grade.I get it that people are busy & there are hundreds of applicants for each job, but that's your job. You cant just focus on the fortunate ones that get to progress to the next level & cast aside the rest. Oh, wait, you can. & do.Sometimes, if early on in the process a simple no via email will do - it allows you to move on. But if you took the time to meet with people & give of your time, then some feedback, hopefully constructive is the least one should expect.All too often, it is easy to forget that on the end of each application is a person. And that person could just about be holding it together, hoping that this time, this one could be the lifeline they need.

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I've been on both sides of this and experimented with a lot of different approaches too. For now, I think I also prefer an email first with the outcome and then the offer of a call. Both because it allows the candidate to process the rejection in their own time and get to a place where they're ready to digest the feedback - and because it gives a little bit of autonomy back in a situation where many feel powerless. In fact, I think the SCARF model is a good way of thinking about this situation as a whole. If we care about candidate experience, then we should think about core human needs in how we give feedback in alignment with these - so status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness and fairness. On that note, I think it's also important to: 1) arrange that feedback call quickly - leaving too much time between the interview and feedback means it's likely to be vaguer and less actionable; 2) make sure your feedback points are specific and tie back to the core requirements of the job. Otherwise the decision is not going to feel fair and the rejection will sting worse.

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Heledd Straker

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That you offer any kind of feedback puts you above and beyond a lot of companies I've come across. I once did a full day assessment with a presentation that I'd spent weeks preparing. The recruiter didn't even bother to contact me. I waited a fortnight and after a lot of chasing, I received a dismissive, 'oh yeah, they weren't interested'. And of course when I asked for feedback, I was ghosted.I quickly realised that I'd dodged a bullet, but I still hate that I wasted my time and money on an organisation (and recruiter) that didn't deserve it.

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Dilara Casey

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I agree — email first and then offer a call. If you call a candidate, they typically expect good news. For example: you called to set up the interview, called to map out next steps, etc. so receiving a call with bad news would definitely catch most people off guard. Let them read it, absorb it, and decide if they want to chat.I’m curious how many people take you up on your offer for the follow-up phone call.

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Bojana Ninkov, MA

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I recently went through this with a company who I thought was my dream role/team. Being in a silver medal situation sucks.The recruiter scheduled a feedback video call for 30 mins 3 days in advance. A few things here:1. The suspense of waiting that long was painful2. Length of call - 30 mins gave me hope we’d be discussing offer details3. Video call is quite brutal b/c as you mentioned, it’s an emotional time for candidatesI’m very much aligned with your approach. Give feedback as early as possible via email + plus offer an optional brief chat for feedback (ideally not on camera)

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Yasmin Russell

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Great approach to take. I like to offer either a 15 call or feedback summary by email, after letting them know the decision. Interestingly 100% of people in the last couple of months have chosen the feedback email as it gives them something to refer back to for future interview prep.

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Mike Peditto

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I used to have a call first approach but I ran a poll on this recently and email me won by an overwhelming majority. Many comments and recruiters said it had to be calls, but the actual votes from job seekers reflected something very different. I do the same thing, an email with an offer to call if they’d like

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Sergiy Svirkov

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Dear Natalie,Your approach to delivering difficult news is both thoughtful and considerate. I appreciate the balance you strike between efficiency and compassion, recognizing the emotional investment candidates make in the job application process.In my experience, receiving bad news via email first does allow for personal space to process the emotions that come with rejection. The follow-up offer for a call is a great way to provide closure and constructive feedback, which can be invaluable for a candidate's professional growth.I believe the best way I've received bad news was when it was delivered with clear reasons, allowing me to understand the decision fully. It helped me to learn and move forward constructively.Thank you for sharing your insights and for your commitment to a kind recruitment process. It's professionals like you who make challenging transitions easier for job seekers.Best regards

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Tim Sherrington

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Good, honest post Natalie Brown.I would say for me it's not about the channel I get the news, but that it comes swiftly and honestly.I would rather I got a 'no' so I can move on, then not hear anything at all.I think a call is good courtesy, but also understand that sending an email first is better for some.

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